We mourn the sudden loss of our 13 year old dog, Tika. It appears to have happened quickly. We had gone in for our appointment regarding what we thought was the onset of seizures. Her heart had expanded and was pressing against her spine. There was some edema as well. We had no clue that this was what we were dealing with. Unfortunately her age and being a small breed makes this common. She could have simply passed due to virtually anything, she was fine in the car when we put her in so she had a quiet space. On our drive home, she wanted to go from the front to the back and lay down, had we known that she was dying then, we wouldn’t have left the vet. I am however, grateful, that I kept checking in on her and when I knew something was terribly wrong, I held her in my arms with my love and comfort.
Be free sweet girl, the Bridge is there for you as are your love ones. We will miss you dearly.
I don’t read much of Cesar Millan’s stuff these days; but every now and again when something comes along that is of use, I like to pass it along.
I do transport for the rescue of dogs (primarily). I have 2 foster failures which is not unheard of in this field lol.
If you are wanting to foster but are unsure how to go about it, Cesar’s article will help you.
Fostering is a wonderful thing that saves dogs’ lives. It gets them out of shelters and into human packs, where they can receive the rehabilitation necessary to make them adoptable.
However, fostering comes not only with the responsibility of caring for the dog, but the necessity of eventually giving up the dog when it finds its forever home. Attachment can make this process difficult. Fortunately, there are some things you can do to make the process easier.
- Start before you even foster
When selecting a foster dog, don’t pick the one that you think is the cutest and ideal for your family. Pick the dog that you wouldn’t necessarily want to keep long-term. For example, if you don’t like tiny dogs, consider a Chihuahua or Yorkie. If you don’t think you’d have the resources to care for a handicapped dog for life, then find that dog who’s blind or deaf, or is missing a limb.
This will make it easier for you to adjust to the temporary status of the foster dog, but it will also be an educational process. As Cesar says, “You don’t always get the dog you want. You get the dog you need.” If nothing else, it will allow you to experience types of dogs you would never normally adopt, and to learn even more about dog behavior.
- Assist in the adoption process
Find out whether your foster program will let you help out in finding that forever home. This can range from documenting your dog’s behavior and personality for future owners to locating and interviewing potential owners themselves.
This will help you be more confident in letting go because you’ll have a stake in the process, and you can assure yourself that you’ve found the right home for your foster.
- Ask for progress reports from the new family
You can continue to take part in your foster dog’s life with photos and stories from her new family, and the Internet makes distance irrelevant. Many shelters ask this of people who adopt dogs from them, largely as a way to keep their staff positive about seeing dogs they’ve gotten to know be adopted.
If distance permits, you could even consider having regular playdates with your current foster (and permanent pack) and adopted past fosters, as long as the new owners are agreeable.
- Celebrate the adoption
Don’t think of giving up your foster to adoption as losing a dog. Think of it as a dog gaining a permanent home. It should be a cause for celebration because you have helped to save a life. Treat yourself and the dog to a fancy meal, go out to your favorite dog park, or invite friends and their dogs over for a party…
However you choose to celebrate, focus on the positive and make the adoption a source of good memories. Document your time with each foster with photos and stories and keep a scrapbook of your successes.
- Foster again
The best part about fostering dogs is that there will always be dogs to foster, and the best way to celebrate one dog leaving your life is to save the life of another. And another. With each foster that you help place in a loving home, it becomes easier to say good-bye. With each new foster, you have another chance to get to know a new dog and help him on the way to his forever home.
During the process, always keep in mind what fostering is. As Amy Romanofsky at FosterDogs.com puts it, “I never think of a foster dog as ‘mine.’ Each dog already belongs to someone else — it just so happens that I haven’t met that person yet.”
But, when you and your foster dog do meet that person, take comfort in knowing that you had a large part in making it happen, and preventing the unthinkable alternative.
Never fostered a dog before? You’re really missing out! See here the top seven reasons to foster a dog.
We do, and her name is Lucy. Lucy is a rat terrier mix and is approximately 9 years old. I say approximately because she is a rescue and we can only go by the paperwork provided.
For a few months now Lucy goes through periods where she would pee our bed. We have flipped our mattress, used products to disinfect, numerous laundry washings etc. Nothing seemed to be helping.
We started to break down what she could be feeling threatened by. One thing that came to mind is that our 12 year old chi mix who we rescued a year ago, we have had to feed her in a different room because Lucy would bully her for her food. That place we feed her is in our bedroom.
The other thing we noticed is she dictates when she will go outside when it rains; then she won’t move if you go to walk. Last night I, with coaxing, was able to get her to walk to a building not far from our home that is grassy and she did her business. Then this morning, in the rain, again she wouldn’t walking willingly so I lifted her up and put her on the grass. She stood there and was prepared to not move, I had to coax her to do so, but she did go in the end.
So today is a new day, and we carry on, persistence is key.
Ever giggle at the faces our pets make? I know we do!
Miss Tika is just one of those sweet dogs who sticks her tongue out! It’s incredibly adorable!
Tika’s our 12 year old chi mix that came to our family about a year ago. She is definitely mummies girl *grins*
HAVE A GREAT DAY!!
Every year, on the second Sunday of September, pet owners join together to honor their pets passed and present
and think about and share with others the important role that their beloved pets have played, and do play, in their lives.
Today I honor my dogs Blaze, Lucy and Tika who are presently with me. I honor my cats Jingles, Cinder and Ella who are also with me. I also honor my cat Mischief, my beautiful dogs Rizzo and Teo. I would also like to take a moment to honor two dogs I have had the pleasure of having in my life through my volunteer work with rescue, Astro and Paco.
One idea that has been shared and is becoming a popular tradition on National Pet Memorial Day, is:
- Plant a tree or a shrub as a living memorial.
For more information, see: http://www.iaopc.com/professionals/national-pet-memorial-day
NATIONAL PET MEMORIAL DAY HISTORY
National Pet Memorial Day, an “unofficial” national holiday, was established by the International Association of Pet Cemeteries and Crematories.
Fundraising for your cause is very hard work. Sometimes things work out and sometimes they don’t. I’ve had to extend Tika’s medical fundraiser because her cause has come to a standstill. I am at a loss as to what to do. All I know is she is worth fighting for, she is a senior, but she has an incredible liveliness about her when she doesn’t feel miserable.
I don’t like asking for donations, I, like many pet owners want to protect and raise our loved ones on our own. I see the causes out there, I realize Tika is no different than anyone else, yet how do I give in and say “sorry sweetheart, mommy failed?”
She came from a life that was not kind to her, then she was loved for many years, when her time was no longer with that person, I became blessed to have her in my life. She deserves the best, she deserves the ability to eat any and all foods presented to her, not restrictions to soft foods. She has troubles with bones, she has troubles with any treats and she has trouble with dried meat treats (I dry liver for her as a treat).
I’ve given an extension, I’ve explained who and why I’m doing this fundraiser. All I ask is you find it within yourself to donate and share her cause.
Thank you so much.
For those that have asked, 2nd opinion inquiries have been done. Some as far as 45 minutes to an hour away. Thank you for your suggestions and tips to help Tika. In the meantime we still need to continue our fundraising to help her get her dental surgery. So I ask of you to donate and if you can’t please share, I’m not giving up on her.
To make a donation or share her link please click http://www.youcaring.com/medical-fundraiser/help-tika-eat-without-pain/143569